Squee! The very first episode of the Mind You podcast is here!
I’ve been tweaking and tinkering away in my little office, with the blinds drawn and a huge ‘KEEP OUT!’ sign on the door. Not quite, but it HAS been a mission!
Click the button below to tune on in. The episode (and entire podcast) will soon go live on iTunes and wherever else you get your podcasts. I just need some wine first before getting that sorted!
This blog is just an outline of the show. So to get the full impact, I recommend having a read while you listen. Enjoy!
Something comes along and causes you pain. Your body remembers it. And when a similar threat crosses your path in the future, you leap into action. You either fight, flee or freeze.
When this happens, hormones like adrenalin and cortisol and released so you can stay alert and make quick decisions. It also makes your heart beat faster, so that blood gets to your limbs ready for you to make a run for it – or stay and fight.
And that means anxiety is helpful.
It’s designed to help you avoid pain or embarrassment. Quite simply, it keeps you alive. And it’s helped our species survive.
See, as an everyday human emotion, anxiety is pretty sweet. Something threatens you, you respond, and your body goes back into balance.
Sounds pretty good so far, right?
Except, it’s not always good is it? You probably wouldn’t tell me your anxiety is helpful when you’re panicking about a presentation you have to give at work. Or when you’re worried if you’ll ever get the house of your dreams, or start the family you so desperately want.
You see, anxiety can be really unhelpful.
It can make you worry about things you have no control over. It can paint a perspective of the world that isn’t necessarily true. And if you let your anxiety run the show for too long, you’re left feeling overwhelmed with worries that won’t go away. You’re fretting about the future more than you’re living in the moment. And sometimes, you might feel so stuck you can’t even leave the house.
Can I get a YAAAAY for anxiety?
Just to get real for a quick sec, if you do feel like your anxiety is outta control and holding you back from living a life you LOVE, here’s what I want you to do:
First, know that it doesn’t have to be that way. You can turn things around. The human brain is basically the best computer ever created…and it’s easily programmable. That means it’s totally possible to change your self-beliefs, thoughts and behaviours. I promise. Because I’ve been there and done that, and I know you WILL get through the nitty gritty part of this.
Second, I encourage you to get support. Speak with your health professional, get referred to a therapist, and start getting comfortable opening up about how you feel and how your anxiety affects you. I know, I know. At first, it can feel really weird talking about this stuff – especially if you haven’t really done it before. But it’s important to surround yourself with a little posse of peeps and professionals who can support you in the right way. I remember my very first counselling session, I was soooo nervous and I so wanted the therapist to like me (which is a fun game my anxiety likes to play – worrying about being liked). I said to her, “I hate talking about myself, so I don’t think I have much to say!” Fast forward a few sessions, and you couldn’t get me to shut up! So it does get easier with practice…and if you find a therapist you click with: that’s super important.
Third, I want you to be kind to yourself. Go gently. Transforming your self-beliefs and mastering your mind takes time and work and a tonne of patience. Think of it as a personal project…get curious, try to understand your mind and why you see the world the way you do…but above all, practice a little self-love along the way. Nooo, naughty, not that kind of self-love. Although, THAT can be amazing for anxiety! I’m talking about allowing yourself some simple pleasures each day. It could be going for a walk, reading a book, taking a bath, or doing something mindful and crafty like macramé, or sporty like hitting the gym or swimming. Do one thing you love each day. And take the pressure off yourself to be perfect. This whole process of making friends with your mind is about stumbling and fumbling and laughing it all of like a kid who takes a tumble in the playground.
I want you to pause what you’re doing and think about this: how do you feel about your anxiety right now?
Really consider your relationship with your mind. Would you say you appreciate and respect it? Or would you put it up on your Facebook profile as ‘it’s complicated’? Maybe you’re considering a trial separation…
But the thing is, you can’t just LEAVE your anxiety. You can’t just SWITCH OFF your mind. You carry it with you: all the helpful, healthy bits, and the less helpful bits.
I actually went travelling around the world for 3 years in an effort to escape my mental issues. Seriously! I mean, I had an absolute ball going from place to place, meeting new people, trying new things like scuba diving and hiking at 11,000 foot volcano with no guide, no lights, and no clue. I had fun. BUT my anxiety came along for the ride. And wherever I went, there it was!
I realised I couldn’t keep running. I HAD to find a way to get to know it, understand it, figure it all out. I had to try and make it my ally, not my enemy.
And to do that, I asked myself the same questions I’d like you to ask yourself right now:
- How do I feel about my anxiety – and why?
- What do I like about my anxiety?
- When is my anxiety helpful?
In wrapping up the episode, I show you a super simple activity to start making friends with your mind.
So hit the link above to tune in!
If you want to really dive deep into your anxiety, and learn the simple steps to make friends with your mind TODAY, I want to personally invite you to the free Love Your Mind e-course. Yep, it’s totally free. You get 6 lessons over 6 weeks, each with a short video and handouts. It’s full of fun, and helpful tips and tools to overcome your anxiety.